Jac Hielema
I guide people in getting clear about their I am and developing the courage to actually live from it, that is, from the inside out. My work is not about wanting something gone: fear, hate and doubt; but wanting to create something: courage, love and inner certainty. I make people aware of the loving creating in them and learning to listen to what is true, even when it is exciting. “Being very afraid and doing it anyway.”
My way of working is rooted in observing life processes in man, in society, in the earth itself, just as Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832) observed nature without judging. I observe with people the movements of their souls and their environment: with attention, with wonder and with respect for the rhythm of development.
With gentle edginess, humor and loving discipline, I help people master the six keys to Living Together and make free-equal thinking concrete and workable in their own lives and work. As a teacher Know yourself! in the Collaborative Living Course and as a teacher as a friend by Customized training pathways, always by practicing presence, courage and love.
For more than a decade I have guided people, communities and initiatives that want to renew from within. My joy lies in the moment when people and communities simply itself Being awake, real, and connected to life.
Live from the inside out
Do you know what you want to do or who you want to be, but does fear or doubt hold you back?
At Customized Training Pathways Practice courage, grounding and loving action.
Everyone is welcome, all it takes is good will and the decision to get started.
What you practice?
on the basis of the six keys
I am
To recognize your own source, that quiet, creative point from which you know what is true for you. You will learn to listen to your intuition, and from there, give direction to what you do and don't do.
Value
To see what you possess and how that can be meaningful to the world around you.
You practice finding balance between giving and receiving, doing and not doing, effort and rest.
Property
Taking ownership of your own life and taking possession of what you need to live your I am to be able to live. You explore how to manage land, labor and capital in a healthy, conscious way.
Earth
Aligning your actions with the reality of nature.
You will learn to see rhythm, boundaries and rest as part of your work so that you can live rooted and sustainable.
Relationship
Being present in contact, with yourself, with others and with the bigger picture.
You practice speaking honestly and really listening from love and trust without being naive.
Organization
Create forms where cooperation can flow freely and equally. You learn to listen to the middle, where decisions do not force themselves but emerge. You learn to think organically at all.
"The reason these exercises work is that they are rooted in spiritual truth."
“I had started training in manual therapy, but I doubted if I could do it. Jac asked me to write down what my real expectations and fears were. That was difficult, but at the same time liberating: I was invited to reflect on what was really alive in me, exactly as it was, at a critical and testing time. Jac read that, or rather, he listened with full attention to what I had penned down, and then wrote guidance that respected my hopes and my fears, but most of all me as a human being. With that encouragement, it was not difficult to do the exercises and find the peace I needed. It helped me take the training with more openness, to learn and enjoy it, and it helped me succeed. Many lessons, such as perceiving my thinking exactly as it is in the moment, without judgment, but rather with love, have stayed with me. The reason these exercises work is that they are rooted in spiritual truth. Or, put another way, they are based on those life facts that you can only discover by looking inward."
Rory O'Connor
Dublin, Ireland
"Jac's guidance helped me to dare to stand still in that forest," he said."
“I had the opportunity to be one of the first to be able to do a pathway with Jac. For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with the question of 'who am I really?' Like everyone around me was walking their path and I was always just picking paths through the trees. That was the reason I became a participant in the Learning Art of Living Together. That helped, but still all my musings felt like a tangle of cooked spaghetti. Jac saw this and offered me his help. He asked me to put my spaghetti knit unstructured on paper and send it to him. In it he found topics to discuss, both during a walk and via email. He gave me exercises to work with. Within a few weeks the spaghetti unraveled a bit, allowing me to make leaps in my own development. I believe Jac's guidance helped me dare to stand still in that forest. Just sitting together on a tree trunk and feeling the ground. And then I suddenly knew who I am. My path became clear and that is what I am walking."
Priscilla Rovers
Almere Oosterwold
"Jac's exercises made me look at myself more lovingly and patiently."
“I participated in the Customized Scholingsweg because I kept bumping up against my 'shadows' (in other words, getting into the danger and strategy triangles) when performing my master's thesis, which was costing me a lot of energy and sometimes made me want to give up. Jac's exercises made me look at myself more lovingly and patiently, and gave me confidence to keep going anyway. Not, as I was used to all my life, by continuing by 'pounding', but by standing still now and then and speaking to myself lovingly. Jac's feedback also inspired my own interpretation of one of the exercises. Another exercise (i.e. my inner sage versus my internal 'Alderman Hekking') exposed very clearly for me my internal process, allowing me to look at it more closely and better understand where that always critical 'Hekking' came from. "
Laurien van der Vaart
Haarlem
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