Jac Hielema
I guide people in getting clear on their I am and developing the courage to actually live from it, i.e. from the inside out. My work is not about wanting to get rid of something: fear, hate and doubt; but wanting to create something: courage, love and inner certainty. I make people aware of the loving creating in them and learning to listen to what is true, even when it is exciting. “Being very afraid and doing it anyway.”
My way of working is rooted in observing life processes in people, in society, in the earth itself, just as Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832) observed nature without judging. I observe with people the movements of their souls and their environment: with attention, with wonder and with respect for the rhythm of development.
With gentle edginess, humour and loving discipline, I help people master the six keys of Living together and make free-equal thinking concrete and workable in their own lives and work. As a teacher Know yourself! in the Art of Living Together course and as a teacher as a friend by Tailored training pathways, always by practising presence, courage and love.
For over a decade, I have guided people, communities and initiatives that want to renew from within. My joy lies in the moment when people and communities simply itself Being awake, real, and connected to life.
Live from the inside out
Do you know what you want to do or who you want to be, but is fear or doubt holding you back?
At Tailor-made training paths Practice your courage, grounding and loving action.
Everyone is welcome, all it takes is good will and the decision to start.
What you practice?
using the six keys
I am
To recognise your own source, that quiet, creative point from which you know what is true for you. You will learn to listen to your intuition, and from there, give direction to what you do and leave.
Value
To see what you have to offer and how that can be meaningful to the world around you.
You practice finding balance between giving and receiving, doing and leaving, effort and rest.
Property
Taking ownership of your own life and owning what you need to own your I am to be able to live. You explore how to deal with land, labour and capital in a healthy, conscious way.
Earth
Aligning your actions with the reality of nature.
You will learn to see rhythm, boundaries and rest as part of your work, so that you can live rooted and sustainable.
Relationship
Being present in contact, with yourself, with others and with the bigger picture.
You practice speaking honestly and really listening from love and trust, without being naive.
Organisation
Create forms where cooperation can flow freely and equally. You learn to listen to the middle, where decisions do not force themselves but emerge. You learn to think organically at all.
"The reason these exercises work is that they are rooted in spiritual truth."
“I had started training in manual therapy, but I doubted I could do it. Jac asked me to write down what my real expectations and fears were. That was difficult, but at the same time liberating: I was invited to reflect on what was really going on inside me, exactly as it was, in a critical and testing moment. Jac read that, or rather listened with full attention to what I had penned down, and then wrote guidance that respected my hopes and my fears, but most of all me as a human being. With that encouragement, it was not difficult to do the exercises and find the peace I needed. It helped me take the training with more openness, to learn and enjoy it, and it helped me succeed. Many lessons, such as perceiving my thinking exactly as it is in the moment, without judgement, but rather with love, have stayed with me. The reason these exercises work is that they are rooted in spiritual truth. Or, put another way, they are based on those life facts that you can only discover by looking inward."
Rory O'Connor
Dublin, Ireland
"Jac's guidance helped me dare to stand still in that forest," he says."
“I had the opportunity to be one of the first to be able to do a pathway with Jac. For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with the question 'who am I really?' Like everyone around me was walking their path and I was always just picking paths through the trees. That was the reason I became a participant in the Samenlevenskunst (Art of Living Together) course. That helped, but still all my musings felt like a tangle of cooked spaghetti. Jac saw this and offered me his help. He asked me to put my spaghetti knit unstructured on paper and send it to him. In it, he found topics to discuss, both during a walk and via email. He gave me exercises to work with. Within a few weeks, the spaghetti unravelled a bit, allowing me to make leaps in my own development. I believe Jac's guidance helped me dare to stand still in that forest. Just sitting on a tree trunk together and feeling the ground. And then I suddenly knew who I Am. My path became clear and I am walking it."
Priscilla Rovers
Almere Oosterwold
"Jac's exercises made me look at myself more lovingly and patiently."
“I took part in the Bespoke Schooling Pathway because I kept bumping into my 'shadows' (in other words, getting into the danger and strategy triangles) when carrying out my master's thesis, which cost me a lot of energy and sometimes made me want to give up. Jac's exercises made me look at myself more lovingly and patiently, and gave me confidence to keep going anyway. Not by going on by 'pounding', as I was used to all my life, but by standing still every now and then and speaking to myself lovingly. Jac's feedback also inspired my own interpretation of one of the exercises. Another exercise (i.e. my inner sage versus my internal 'alderman Hekking') exposed very clearly for me my internal process, allowing me to look at it more closely and better understand where that ever-critical 'Hekking' came from. "
Laurien van der Vaart
Haarlem
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